Creating a Culture of Compassion


So I had this totally cute & witty post that I typed up last night…And then it disappeared…Literally – I hit the “Save” button and then boom: gone:(

After bemoaning it for awhile (ugh, I have to type the whole thing AGAIN…I was totally hilarious <ok, probably not that hilarious) but seriously, ask my husband…I was pretty stoked about how funny my writing was…all those years of reading Shopaholic books paid off:)

So…back to the topic at hand…Creating a culture of compassion.

I really want my kids to love giving. I don’t care whether it’s money or things or time; I just want them to want to give.

If you’re just joining me and don’t actually know me, my kids are boys, ages 6 and 4. They both have different personalities. For instance, my 4 year old was so excited at his last birthday to receive a toy car that when he opened the second gift and it was a toy car he immediately cried out, “One for my brother!” It was precious! My 6 year old, on the other hand, is excited to “sell” his toys to get new toys or if encouraged to give toys away, he suggests giving them to his best friends (not a bad thing, per se, but not quite what I meant when I asked him to go through his toys to give some away:)

I’m intrigued to know what others are doing to create a culture of compassion with their kids. A few of the things we have done (truth: we have not completed the 25 days of kindness…in fact we did one…BUT it is something I’m keeping on hand to try again this December…or at various times during the year, since I’m typing this and that totally made it sound like I ONLY want to be compassionate in December).

1. 25 Days of Kindness (Actually called: 25 Days of Messages): As stated, we did the very first item on the list. It was a little awkward, but the ladies at Cracker Barrel loved it:)

2. Adopt a Compassion Child: This we really did because I wanted to do it. I NEED a daughter…and since there is not going to be a Maybean #3 anytime soon…our precious Compassion child is filling the need from afar:) Overall it’s been great for the whole family. We’ve taught the boys about Burkina Faso. We showed them where it is located on the globe and talked about the weather and living conditions of the little girl we adopted. At first Lincoln, my 6 year old, was disappointed that the little girl was not actually moving in with us BUT he was cheered up by hearing that one day we will be able to visit her. I like the fact that we are able to exchange letters and that my kids are going to be able to see a child that is their age grow in another part of the world.

3. Get out in the community: For us, this means Community Makeover which is an event our church puts on where we go to different places in our county and do various projects. My 6 year old actually saw the video of kids sliding down halls with sponges on their feet “mopping” and said, “I want to do that!” There were several projects to choose from so I picked one that was close to his elementary school – that way he’d have a personal connection to it. It’s the first time we’ve done this type of project as a family and I am extremely excited!

4. Hands On Atlanta Day: Full disclosure: I’m on the host committee for this event BUT I am so excited about doing it that I’ve already had my family and parents mark the date on their calendar! Hands on Atlanta is an organization that works to pair people and corporations that want to volunteer with projects that need volunteers. The company I work for worked with them for several years and with their anniversary this year, I was asked to assist in promoting the event. I’m thrilled to have another venue to allow my kids to serve others. This event is open to the public so talk to your friends, your family and your companies and jump on board – let me know if you have questions – I’d love to get you plugged in, especially if you live and/or work in the Atlanta area (the projects reach from Cherokee/Cobb into Fulton and Dekalb among other areas and involve a TON of local schools!!).

So what are you doing to create a culture of compassion in your home…and if you have young ones – have you even tried to touch the subject of tithing? I’d love to know what you are doing (or even things you tried and didn’t turn out the way you thought – I’ll tell you about my 6 year old’s response to tithing:)

Talk to you soon!



2 thoughts on “Creating a Culture of Compassion

  1. Jen July 2, 2014 / 2:39 am

    that’s great that you sponsor a compassion child…. 2 years ago I decided to sponsor one from Indonesia. I look forward to the letters she writes me 🙂

  2. Marissa Nadjarian July 2, 2014 / 4:31 am

    Hi Courtney,
    I’m new to designing a culture of compassion with my daughter since she’s only 20 months, so I really appreciate your ideas. I’m dedicated to being a parent that raises socially conscious kids. I’m excited to share my adventures and ideas at Many of my ideas stem from my experiences building a culture of compassion in my classroom as a teacher. Can’t wait to read more about what you’re up to with your boys for more inspiration!

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